Another year has ended, and another has started. A very happy 2013 to you.
Every year we make New Year’s resolutions and as the days and weeks progress, they get sidelined and immediate exigencies take precedence and before we realize it, the resolutions of this year become the resolutions of the next year, and this goes on. How do you make the most of the new year?
According to a study mentioned in this Forbes article, only 1 out of 10 people in America who make resolutions somehow manage to keep them. Of course these figures may also include people who make resolutions just for the heck of it (there is also a fad thing) but even serious people who want to lose weight, increase their savings, improve their health and get more organized fail to stick to their resolutions.
Why does this happen? Why do people lose track of their resolutions every year? Everybody starts with great determination. Then what happens?
Before you make a list of resolutions, you may like to ask yourself the following questions
- Do you really want to do this? Commitment comes from a strong desire. Do you remember how hard you try when you want to date somebody or get romantically involved with? At that moment your every action seems to be working towards that singular goal. Why cannot you bring the same level of determination in other aspects of your life, for example, losing weight? It might be because it is not as important to you as you think it is. Maybe you’re totally fine with your weight and you don’t want to lose it. You simply make a resolution of losing your weight because you think it should be done or maybe your other friends are also making such resolutions. So if you want to carry out a resolution, make sure that you really want to do it.
- What is the exact thing you are aiming at? The more vague you resolution is, the more difficult it is going to be to stick to it. You need to have very clear goals. He should be actually able to visualize yourself doing what you eventually want to do. Why do you want to lose weight? You want to fit into that dress you have always craved for? You want to participate in marathon? When you have a clear goal, you feel even more determined.
- Are you being reasonable? If you want to increase your bank balance by $1 million by the end of this year with zero balance right now and the salary of $2000 per month, are you sure it is a realistic resolution? I’m not saying that it cannot be done, but if you can draw a list of realistic resolutions, they will be more achievable. What about saving $200 every month when you have not at all been saving so far?
- Do you have a plan of action? People succeed when they know exactly how they want to reach from point A to point B. If you want to change your career by the end of the year, what steps are you going to take? You will need to improve your qualifications. You will need new skills or upgrade existing skills. You will need to spend more time on networking with the right people. You need to have a clear picture of what all you need to do in order to accomplish what you want to do.
- How do you plan to keep yourself motivated? Of course the above listed steps to a great extent take care of your motivation, nonetheless, your mind constantly tells you that you cannot do it. At these moments you will need to force your mind to think about the success, and not about the surrounding impediments and the resulting failure.